Release Anger Healthily [How-To]

Most people express anger in ways that harms their health: Suppression, repression, or rage. 

Read on to learn about those three unhealthy practices, and what you can do instead to release anger healthily (which I believe can be used for other emotions, too).

I first learned about this in Gabor Maté’s When the Body Says No, chapter 19.

Most people harm their health with ‘abnormal’ expression of anger

Gabor Maté and many other practitioners (e.g. the late medical doctor John Sarno) have found that abnormal expression of emotion, especially anger, can contribute to bad health and illness. Maté describes two ‘abnormal’ ways of expressing anger: 

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The Anxiety Shapeshifter [Eco-Anxiety] [Health Anxiety]

Stress and anxiety are very good at spreading from one context to another without us realising.

It’s a bit like the mythical “shapeshifter”, Harry Potter style, changing its form to fit into different situations.

Suppose we’re having a particularly difficult time at work, with emotions riding high. Heart rate might be raised, our thinking less clear.

What happens when we get home and stop thinking about work?

If we still have some stress and anxiety ‘hanging in the background’, the mind may keep looking for reasons for feeling that stress and anxiety.

It might hone in on that little habit your spouse does; or on the dinner you’re organising for a few close friends. It might act as-if that’s the cause of the stress and anxiety, and get frustrated at these things in an unusual way.

Or if your daughter’s running late and not answering her phone, you might get more anxious or worried than appropriate about her safety.

If you hear a famous person has cancer, you might begin to worry more about the risk of getting cancer yourself. Here it’s shifting towards health anxiety or hypochondria.

If you read about global warming, you might start to worry more than is helpful or appropriate about the climate problem. Now it’s feeding into eco-anxiety.

Basically, if something is causing anxiety and stress, then you’re likely to start finding more and more things to feel worried, annoyed, anxious or stressed about.

The solution is to find the biggest cause(s) of your anxiety and stress, and treat it at the source. As you do that, it can be surprising how the symptoms and other worries you once had begin to fade away.

Hunt down the shapeshifter, and stop it sneaking into the other areas of your life.

Check out my ebook and relaxation audio – or hit reply if you’re ready to take the next step.

All the best,

Panic or Anxiety Attacks 101

Panic and anxiety attacks are sudden, relatively strong experiences that typically include symptoms like:

  • A feeling of panic/anxiety/doom/fear of death
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Chest pains
  • Lightheadedness and shortness of breath / a sense you can’t breathe enough air (caused by hyperventilation)

Panic and anxiety attacks occur due to a type of issue involving our unconscious mind1, which I refer to as “unconscious malfunctions”.

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